“I didn’t know that about you.”

Well, you didn’t ask.

I’ve always been a pretty private person. When it comes to details about myself, I’m not one to volunteer much info, which is seemingly uncharacteristic as now I’m blogging about all kinds of things about myself.

Trust issues? Maybe.

Why volunteer information that doesn’t seem to be of interest to the other party? After all, if they wanted to know something, they’d ask. And they don’t. So I continue to stay on the favorite topic of themselves.

Recently, I’ve asked some other friends about this; part research, part confirmation. It seems I’m not alone. As they scrolled through some of their text messages, it all of a sudden became clear that things were more one sided. They were the ones asking questions and making comments but nothing was coming back to them. I felt badly as I saw their expression change and the realization come into view.

It’s not only text, it’s phone & also in person. It’s the person, not the communication type.

Why is it that other peoples feelings don’t seem to matter? Or that we are so insensitive that we don’t even realize that we are behaving this way?

For myself, I want more. I want to feel that my circle is interested in me and my days. I also want them to know that I care about them as well. I don’t just say it; I show it.

People eventually show you whom they are. Believe them the first time.