If you have nothing nice to say….

What happened to that? If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

Social media has made so many fearless keyboard warriors.

I’ve used social media to build my businesses, connect with family, maintain friendships. It’s got some good qualities. It’s also got an ugly side too. Maybe you’ve seen it.

I’m in so many different groups on Facebook. From Peloton to a fave TV show, Boston Terrier groups to cleaning without chemicals. There’s a lot of value in many of these and a non stop streaming of opinions. What never ceases to amaze me is the negativity and humiliation.

A Million Little Things is a tv show that I really enjoy. In the group, they chat about the latest episode and conspiracy theories that may be up and coming. What they also do is bitch, moan, complain and argue about every character they don’t like, the lines they don’t agree with, the story line moving one way or another, and how stupid the opinions are of others posting in the group.

With Peloton, there’s a slew of options. Peloton, Peloton insert your state, Peloton Women, Peloton Moms, Peloton Men, Peloton Gays, Peloton Teachers and so on and so on and so on….I am in the Peloton Women group. Truth be told, I was in the Peloton group originally and the women’s group. One thing is many of the posts were the same; cross posting is huge to gather information. But in that Peloton group, the comments were amazingly rude. It was like a volcanic eruption if someone asked a question that had been addressed, or *gasp* you asked a question about purchasing a Peloton and you were already in the group because you’re just an app user on a Schwinn. These people were ruthless. I found that I wasn’t getting value and left the group. In Peloton Women, many ladies comment on the same observation and their exit from the group. Lately, however, the Women’s group has begun to be just as fierce.

A woman posted about ‘licking the face’ of a certain instructor. The community went ballistic.

Again, we are celebrating WAP, song of the year and praising the sexual prowess of women equating that to success and power. This woman went from meaning to compliment the attractiveness of an instructor to sexualizing them, and comments are flying. Best part, is the keyboard community began commenting on the looks of the poster and begin attacking her. The whole thing is so freaking hypocritical.

In another group, a town group, a man posted about the conditions of a parking lot. He had damage to his car from a pot hole. He was looking for help to find the property owner/manager and how to file a complaint. Instead he got over 300 comments about his driving, his texting, his greed, his stupidity, his profile pic, his whining and his education. There were a few comments sprinkled in that had other people saying they also have experienced this monster pot hole, but those people were few and far between from the nay sayers and negativity slashers that consumed this guys post.

Can we please stop being so offended by everything?

If we can’t stop being offended, can we please stop being so opinionated?

If we can’t stop being opinionated, can we please begin asking questions of others?

If we can’t be nice, can’t we practice being quiet?