What you allow, is what will continue.

I’ve said this line hundreds of times.

We’ve talked about if you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, then change the way you think about it. It’s how to help keep your sanity. How to keep your balance. The line above is along the same lines…you can’t continue to blame others for what you allow.

There are people in friendships, relationships, partnerships that are complaining about this or that. You know how it goes. Your significant other doesn’t thank you anymore like they used to? They don’t pick up after themselves anymore? They seem to have lost all motivation for basically everything? They don’t do things your way? The possibilities are endless…..you complain about it but it only helps if you bring it to the other person and share your feelings.

Complaining without working towards making a change is called whining. Whiners rarely win.

I’ve been in friendships that are basically one sided. It’s seemingly good as long as they are getting what they want, but eventually I’m the one reaching out, I’m the one checking in and then I realize that I’m the one hanging on. We’ve all been there; I’m sure. How long does someone continue to put in unreciprocated effort?

I’ve been in relationships that have gone sour. I’m confident in stating that I’m a good communicator. I’m not afraid to say what I want, what I need or how I feel. That’s on me. If the situation doesn’t change, it’s ultimately up to me to decide what to allow and for how long. After all, it takes two, and if only one is putting in work and effort, well…it doesn’t take long for things to go sideways.

In business, same rules. If you don’t speak up, things will continue. After all, it’s human nature to do the least you can and get away with it, right? What are you showing those around you by taking less than deserved? By accepting less than acceptable? As frustrating as it can become, it’s not their fault….it’s yours. You’ve allowed it.

How long the behavior lasts is basically up to you; as what you allow is what will continue.

People show you who they are. It’s entirely up to you how they fit into your world.